How To Help Children And Youth That Are Ashamed, Blamed, Suffering Debilitating Guilt

About What Has Been Done; About Feeling Worthless; About Shame For Being Alive

Feeling guilty or ashamed a little is pretty natural–like regret. Feeling ashamed a great deal can be both physically and psychologically painful and disabling. It can slow learning. Unchecked, shame can destroy confidence and success in later life. It can make children & youth very fearful of attempting anything. Shame is learned. It can be due to a combination of: clumsy attempts at control; exposure to a lack of compassion and forgiveness; being blamed or teased; unskilled guidance by ashamed parents, family, friends, teachers and other professionals; unresolved traumas or disfigurements; having apparent difficulties; poverty; racism; uncertain gender identification; sexual orientation; learning challenges; communication difficulties; emotions--expressed and unexpressed; abuse of all kinds including spiritual abuse. Shame can be made more confusing by nutritional imbalances and exposure to environmental pollutants.

First, We Would Investigate

Second, We Would Investigate

For Long Term Support
We Would Investigate

  • Attitudinal Healing
  • EMDR
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Biofeedback
  • Psychotherapy
  • Psychiatry
  • Expressive Arts
  • Meditation
  • Support For Parents
  • Nonviolent Communication
  • Flower Essences
  • Homeopathy
  • Ayurveda
  • Traditional Chinese Medicine
  • Wilderness Therapy
  • Aikido
  • Yoga
  • Massage
  • Drumming
  • Music Lessons
  • Independent Study
  • Aikido
  • Aromatherapy
  • Nutrition Consulting
  • Massage
  • Nonviolent Communication
  • Flower Essences

On Our Own We Would Try: • Bedtime Stories and Chats • Wholesome Pleasures • Replace sodas, juices, sugars, fats, fast foods with water veggies, whole grains, protein, fruit, slow food • Back Rubs and Foot Massage • Long Walks/Hikes • Nature • Faith and Hope • Pets • No or Less TV

For Parents: • It is very important for the family to learn how to effectively give support, acknowledge each other, forgive self and others and to have compassion. • Investigate over the counter at health food stores: Bach Flower Essence remedies including: Crabapple for shame and self hatred; Larch for lack of self-confidence; Pine for self reproach/guilt; and Rescue Remedy for general well-being.

Check out: www.MedLinePlus.gov; www.KidsHealth.org; www.traumasoma.com/index.shtml (very technical); www.acestudy.org.

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